It was a long a painful adolescence with Theo but he is growing into an amazing young man, happily settled in an IT apprenticeship and working at a local further educaiton college. We have just secured an Education and Healthcare Plan for Jules with funding to move him to a specialist residential school which will suit his need for a calmer, more predictable environment than his current mainstream school can offer. Our boys are amazing, they are unique and individual. Through them we have learned to understand that not everyone is wired the same way so we have learned to adapt our communications to suit them and as they grow they are learning strategies to adapt their communications to fit into this big confusion world of ours.
I have also written a post for as part of an Autism Positivity Flashblog - this was in response to an anonymous person posting on a blog that they wished they did not have autism. My post is a letter to Theo explaining why I hoped he would never feel that way and explaining what a wonderful person I (and all of those who know and love him) think he is
Life is not always a bed of roses with children with such different needs, this was highlighted very starkly when we attempted to have a family holiday last year. Now we tend to have small breaks with just one or two of the children although we have found that a holiday where everyone can do their own thing makes for a happy family experience! Later this year we hope to go to Center Parcs where we have found the perfect balance of something for everyone